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Why You Need to Menu Plan (and how I do it)

Why Every Homemaker Needs to Menu Plan!

 

It goes like this:

You get home from the grocery store and pull all of the rotten junk out of the refrigerator that you never got around to using last week. All the random vegetables that you bought because you knew you should make vegetables with your meals are now molded and unusable. You shake your head in disgust, throw them away, and put a brand new round of random foods into the fridge.

Dinner time comes and you're rummaging through all the random ingredients you purchased trying to come up with something that will taste halfway decent. You forgot one key ingredient to the lasagna you were thinking of making, but you don't realize it until halfway through your prep. time. You continue on with the whatever substitution you can find, but the result is less than stellar. Everyone eats a courtesy helping and the rest goes into the fridge. “We'll eat the leftovers for lunch” you half-heartedly tell yourself, knowing full well that you might as well just throw it away now. But alas, you allow the disfavored food to sit in the refrigerator until you spy a layer of fuzzy green growing on the top of your leftover lasagna.

“Someday I will get my act together” you think as you toss it into the trash. “I really need to start planning things out a little better.”

But here's the thing: Telling yourself you need to change and changing are two different things.

 

We all have good intentions, but intentions never get us anywhere unless we follow through.

 

Can I tell you about something that helped me start planning healthy (and frugal!) meals for my family?

It's called Build a Menu, and it works like this:

1. Choose the store where you'd like to shop (it even includes my favorite store – ALDI!)
2. Choose the recipes you want to make. You can plan out every meal of the day as well as snacks and even dessert if you want. And those on special diets needn't worry – they've got you covered too! Gluten free, Paleo, Trim Healthy Mama, Allergen Free…they've got it all!
3. As you select your recipes, a shopping list is automatically generating for you and tallying up your total. Each recipe is marked with its approximate cost, so if you go over-budget, you can go back and de-select something or switch out a more expensive recipe for a cheaper one.

That's it! You can drag and drop your recipes onto a weekly or monthly calendar if you like or just print the entire thing as a list and choose whichever one suits your fancy that day. The important thing is that you've planned for specific meals and shopped from a specific list.

No more buying random items and pulling them – rotten – from the fridge a week or two later!

You can give it a try with a free 2 week subscription.

 

 

 

 

5 Ways to be Your Husband’s Best Friend

Best friends.

 

We've all heard that husbands and wives should be best friends.  But how does that actually play out in real life?

You might want to be best friends with your husband but you lack the knowledge to do so.

I talked this post over with my husband before I wrote it because I wanted to be 100% sure that what I was writing was something with which he would agree!

Together we came up with these 5 Ways To Be Your Husband's Best Friend.

 

How to Be Your Husband's Best Friend

 

 

1. Laugh with him.

When you're out with your girlfriends no doubt there is a good deal of laughter that goes on.  You enjoy each other's company and you're naturally going to smile and laugh with each other.

But it goes to a whole deeper level when you're laughing with the one who is also the love of your life.

My husband and I share a million and one inside jokes.  We're always cracking up at what seems to others as random moments.  But we each know without even looking at the other what the other one is thinking.

It's funny.  And it's beautiful.

 

2. Grow in Christ together.

My closest friends throughout the years have been those with whom I share a spiritual bond.  Those with whom I've shared my prayer requests, no matter how big or little.  Those who aren't afraid to give me a spiritual kick in the tail when I'm off track.  Those who challenge and edify me through our conversations.

A husband and wife who want to be the best of friends will also help one another grow in Christ.  They'll pray together.  They'll share with the other what the Lord has been teaching them through their personal quiet time.  They'll ask the other for help when they're having trouble overcoming a certain character flaw.

 

3. Spend time with him.

Quality time together is one of the foundations of friendship, isn't it?

Why then do so many husbands and wives neglect to set aside regular time to date one another – to make time to talk about something other than which bills need to be paid and what time Johnny needs to be at soccer practice?

Do you know your husband's hopes and dreams?  Have you spent enough time with him to find out?

I get that life is busy, but you truly have time for what you make time for.  Make time for your husband.  Get creative.  (Here are 25 Stay-at-home Date Night Ideas if you need some help, then scroll down for a super-fun date night giveaway!)

4. Bear his burdens.

I'm not talking about major tragedies that couples might face.  Of course you're going to bear that burden with him. I'm talking about the little things.

When your husband comes home from work frustrated because he didn't have a productive day, give him a shoulder rub and tell him you're sorry.  Don't roll your eyes and say “Oh yeah?  Well let me tell you about my day!”

5. Enjoy physical touch

Physical intimacy in the bedroom should be just that – intimate.  Rather than succumbing to the temptation to make it a purely physical act, strive to connect on an emotional and even spiritual level.

Little touches throughout the day also tell the other person, “I enjoy being around you.  You're special to me.  You're my best friend and there's no one I'd rather be with right now.”

 

What other ways can you think of to be your husband's best friend?

 


For some awesome, inspirational reading, I recommend the following books:

100 Ways to Love Your Husband: A Life-Long Journey of Learning to Love (by Lisa Jacobson)

100 Ways to Love Your Husband

8 Reasons Bloggers Need to Make Friends With Google Analytics

As a blogger, I thrive on the creative aspect of things – creating awesome content and coming up with new ideas.

While I make use of more technical things like Google Analytics sometimes, it has definitely not been a top priority of mine.

I figured if I kept creating awesome content and faithfully shared to social media, I would be fine and my site would keep growing.  I figured I was doing all I reasonably could and that the biggest results of my traffic were kind of up to fate.

I never realized the amazing power I held to control my results to a much greater extent!

8 Reasons Bloggers Should Become Friends with Google Analytics

That power was found inside of Google Analytics.  For so long I've thought I was doing pretty well by checking which posts did well at this time last year and re-sharing them.  Or checking which Pinterest pins were bringing me the most traffic and re-pinning them regularly.

But there was so much more than that.

I just got this new book called “Skyrocket Your Blog's Pageviews with Google Analytics” and I have been voraciously reading and implementing all of the advice.  My mind has been blown with how many treasures I was overlooking within Google Analytics.

Skyrocket Your Blog's Pageviews with Google Analytics

 

For instance, just in a few short days of putting into practice the things I've learned, I came up with 8 ways I've benefited from making better friends with Google Analytics:

 

  1. Increase new visitors

I'm finding clever yet authentic ways to target new audiences that I have not been able to harness.

I'm also finding out how to increase the audience demographic that I already have.

 

2. Keep visitors on site longer

I am no longer guessing which content I should be featuring to entice visitors to read more.  I know exactly which content they want to see.

 

3. Know where to spend advertising dollars

Again, I don't have to guess here.  I already know which sources are sending me quality traffic and I can invest into what is already working.

 

4. Increase affiliate earnings

Instead of simply including affiliate links in my posts (which is a good idea, by the way), I can tell exactly which topics will perform well and that I need to get busy creating an affiliate post for.

5. Increase SEO

I never realized that a big part of my SEO strategy was hiding in plain sight in Google Analytics.  I'm on it now.

 

6. Improve Social Media Strategy

I can tell what to post on social media and when to post it.  No more struggling to guess which of my posts I should share at a given time.

 

7. Provide new content ideas

I can see what content people are already liking a lot or what they're hoping to find that's not there.  This provides me with an endless supply of content ideas that are guaranteed to work.

 

8. Find potential blogging buddies and tribemates

I can see which other bloggers' content meshes with mine and take notice of which sites traffic flows smoothly to and from.  These blogs are the perfect candidates for recruiting as tribemates.

 

I wish I could just tell you everything I've learned, but that wouldn't be fair to the ladies who wrote the book.  They've done the dirty work to really dig hard and mine for the hard-to-find treasures within Google Analytics.

And what I love most is that the book is broken down into small bite-sized challenges so that you can just focus on learning one small thing at a time.  There are 33 challenges total that will walk you through all the nitty-gritty details of Google Analytics and then offer brilliant strategies on what to do with the information you've found.

At $14.99, it's a steal in my opinion.  I have already had fantastic results and I have not even had a chance to work at it much.

My pageviews, unique visitors, and time on site are all increasing, and my bounce rate is decreasing.  And based on which posts are improving and where the traffic is coming from, I can tell this is a direct result of strategies that were shared in the book.

 

If you want someone to walk you step-by-step through the process of becoming best buds with Google Analytics, you can grab the eBook below.

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Dear Mom of the Prodigal Child

Dear Mom of the Prodigal Child - wonderful encouragement for the Christian mom

 

Dear Mom of the Prodigal Child,

 

Before I got married and had kids of my own, I was the perfect parent.

It was going to be so easy. I would simply teach my kids to do right – and they would!

 

Parents who had wayward children had obviously messed up somewhere down the line. After all, the Bible says “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” If yours departed from the ways of Scripture, it was your fault.

 

When I had my own children, everything changed. It wasn’t a sudden change; just a gradual one.

 

Over time I began to find that the things I taught my kids didn’t always seem to stick. So I’d teach them again. And they still didn’t stick.

Then I realized that sometimes…sometimes it wasn’t that they weren’t understanding or remembering what I’d taught them. They were choosing to do what they wanted to do, even though they knew better.

 

Although the issues I deal with from a seven-year-old and a five-year-old are small in comparison to a grown child who is committing crimes, living an immoral lifestyle, or just living it up with no thoughts of God, it is still painful to me as a mother when I see a child who has been taught over and over to do right ignore instruction and willfully make the choice to serve self rather than God.

When I see a child who thinks only of himself with no consideration for how his actions affect others and with no regard for what God says about his actions, I shudder to think what that could mean when he is grown. Blatant self-indulgence now in the form of sneaking forbidden candy or soda could easily turn into all kinds of immorality and wickedness in later years. Shirked schoolwork and chores could turn my child into a good-for-nothing adult. Disregard for the property of others now could turn my child into a thief in later years.

And none of it would be because my child hasn’t been taught what is right. My children all have and will continue to be taught what is right – over and over and over.

But I can’t make them do right. They must still choose right on their own.

When one of my children makes a wrong choice, I often second-guess myself. “Did I not make it clear what was right in this situation? Did I not spend enough one-on-one time with this child? Did I focus too much on outward actions and not reach this child’s heart?”

While constant evaluation of my parenting skills will help me do the best job I possibly can, I must not blame every failure of my child on myself. In most cases, the failure occurred simply because my child chose to please self rather than please God.

Rather than scouring parenting books looking for new and better ideas, the best strategy for me to reach my child’s heart is to spend my time on my knees, begging God to do the work in my child’s heart that I cannot do.

Dear mama of the prodigal child: I’m sorry. Perhaps you spent the best years of your life teaching and training your child to do what is right and to serve God with his life. And now you find the child you love so much has ignored what he has been taught and is seeking to find satisfaction in serving himself.

Instead of joining you in prayer for your child, I’ve wondered what you did wrong in your parenting for your child to turn out this way.

Chances are, you’re already second-guessing yourself. You don’t need others to heap more of a burden onto your already stooped shoulders.

Perhaps you really didn’t do a good job teaching your children to do right. Maybe you didn’t know how. Maybe your spouse didn’t support what you were trying to do. Maybe you simply failed to do what you knew you should have done.

That doesn’t make it any less painful to see your child wasting his life and hurting himself, others, and God.

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Dear mama of the prodigal child,

I know now that the only way to reach the heart of your child is on your knees. Instead of judging you, I’m joining you.

 

 

Quick Help for the Terrible Cook

If you've read this blog for any length of time (or even if you just look at the name!) you can tell that homemaking doesn't exactly display my strong points.

Sadly, that includes cooking.

I certainly enjoy eating, but cooking I do not.  When I post a recipe, you can be guaranteed it's going to be easy.  If I can do it, anybody can.

 

However, there has been one simple thing that has really upped my cooking game of late.  I can actually fry an egg and keep the yolk runny.  I can cook a pan of oatmeal and keep it from sticking to the bottom of the pan.

And I didn't even have to learn any new cooking techniques.

Quick help for the terrible cook - definitely something to consider!

 

Want to know my secret?

 

Non-stick pans.

 

Gasp!  Don't you write about healthy living sometimes?  And aren't those supposed to be toxic? 

 

Yes, Teflon pans, although extremely convenient, contain toxic chemicals that can be terribly harmful to the human body.

 

However, there are several companies who are now manufacturing non-stick ceramic pans.   These particular pans do not contain harmful chemicals but are every bit as convenient as other types of non-stick pans.

 

My dear husband, for some strange reason, decided to buy me a set of them for Christmas.  (Perhaps he was tired of eating half-burnt food?)

 

I didn't realize just how much I loved them until I cooked something in one of my old stainless steel pans the other day.  Oh my goodness!  It was such a challenge to keep the food from sticking, burning, and just being generally nasty.  (One at which I wasn't terribly successful.)

I don't even have to think about it anymore with these new pans.  They're making cooking so much easier for me.

And they are saving me tons of clean-up time too!  I hardly even have to wash the pans.  The food fragments practically slide right out of them.  A little courtesy swish with a rag is all I need and I'm done!

 

I can't say anything about other brands that are out there, but this is the brand my husband bought me.

It's one of the cheapest brands available, but I'm extremely happy with it.

I will say that I've been very careful with it so that I don't scratch the non-stick coating.  It has several instructions that must be followed, such as:

  • never use metal utensils
  • hand-wash only
  • do not heat on high
  • never heat without fat in the pan

 

If you're not the greatest cook in the world, I would definitely suggest getting yourself a set of these!  They have made a huge difference for me, and I know they will help you out too!

 

 

 

6 Things All Parents Should Say to Their Kids

We've explored some things children should not be allowed to say to adults, but have you considered the way you speak to your children?

“But I'm the parent!  I can say what I want!”

Yes, you are the parent, but the Biblical commands to “be kind one to another” and to let our “speech be always with grace” do not exclude the way we speak to our children.  The Proverbs 31 woman opened her mouth with the law of kindness, and I don't doubt for a minute that included the way she spoke to her children.

Here are six things I believe all parents should say to their kids:

 

1. Please

“Wait.  Back up.  I'm the parent.  They're the kid.  I tell them what they're going to do; I don't ask them.”

While children should be expected to obey when they're given a command, I don't think that necessarily means parents need to give commands by simply barking orders.  “Son, would you please unload the dishwasher?” sounds so much more pleasant than “Go unload the dishwasher!”

Now, it's important to understand that asking it as a question does not mean that saying “No I won't unload the dishwasher” is an option.  My children know that “Please unload the dishwasher” means “Go unload the dishwasher” and that the correct answer is “‘Yes, ma'am, I sure will,” but it just makes the atmosphere of our home more pleasant than barking orders all the time. Sometimes the situation or the attitudes of my kids call for things to be phrased as a direct command, and there is definitely a place for a more no-nonsense approach, but that doesn't have to be the case every time you need them to do something.

By saying please to your child you are recognizing that they are a person who is deserving of just as much respect as anyone else.  When all you ever do is bark orders it becomes easy to turn your children into your personal servants.  “Pick up that piece of paper I dropped.”  “Go put my glass in the sink.”  They're your children and need to obey, but they're not your slaves.

 

2. Thank you.

Just as you should show respect to your kids by saying please, you should teach them how to be grateful to others by showing your gratefulness to them.  When your child does something to help around the house, even if it's something you told him to do, thank him for it.  Don't you enjoy doing things for others much more when you're thanked for your efforts?  You teach your children how to appreciate what others do for them when you show appreciation for what they do at home.  Thank your child for a job he's done and see how much more motivated he'll be next time you need him to do something!

 

3. You're special.

You don't have to use this exact phrase, but every child should know that they are valuable to you.  You can show them this by the time you spend with them, but you should also be verbalizing it.  Some of the things I say to let my kids know they're special to me:

“You're my favorite 5-year-old!”  “I don't know what I'd do without you!”  “You're my little princess/prince.”  I also have various terms of endearment for each child that I use regularly.

I also like to sing songs to them like “You are my sunshine” or goofy little made-up stuff that I'll spare letting you hear. 🙂

 

4. Good job.

Again, you don't have to use these exact words, but there is hardly a greater motivation for a child to do what he's supposed to do than to hear his parents verbally express that he did a good job at something.  I have one child in particular who thrives on this type of praise, and I simply can't overdo it.  When I tell him how happy I am that he finished his dinner without complaining or that he did his best cleaning his room instead of stuffing things in the closet, he absolutely glows!  I look for as many things as I can, no matter how tiny, to praise him for.  And the more I do it, the more motivated he is to keep on doing what's right.

On the other hand, some children won't see everything they've done as a big deal.  Be sensitive to the personality of each individual child.  As an extreme example, don't embarrass your twelve-year-old by telling him what a great job he did eating his dinner without spilling it on the floor.  Find the things that you know your child worked hard to accomplish and make those into a big deal.

 

5. I'm sorry.

Try as we might, parents, the reality is we sometimes (more often than we'd like) mess up.  You know what's worse than messing up?  Not admitting that we've messed up.  Your child knows when you've messed up.  He knows you're not perfect.  So it will mean a lot to him for you to say “I'm sorry I got upset and yelled at you.  That wasn't the right way for me to handle the situation.  Will you forgive me?”  Your credibility with your child will be ten times greater than it would be if you tried to ignore what you did wrong.

 

6. I love you.

Every child in the world should hear this phrase at least once a day.  Unfortunately many don't, and that doesn't only include children living in orphanages or those living in the slums who are passed from caregiver to caregiver.  Don't just show your kids you love them; tell them!  These words are something every child craves!

What would you add to this list?